pics frm dinner @ NEBO...fiqa is excited bout tomorrow cause she''ll b celebrating national day
@ school 4 d first time...looking @ my kids innocent faces,makes me wonder if they they hv the slightest thinking bout my problems wif their daddy...they seem so oblivious to everything..
and the worst thing is me having to put up a show that mummy & daddy is doing fine..i do not want them to b affected by our problems but i do feel guilty leading them on rite that...hubby doesn't seem to change...gave him another chance bt he's taking it for granted....so obvious he juz don care.....question on my mind is should dis end?is dis a joke 2 him?will he only change after i leave him?im wondering wats on his mind actually...this is taking a toll on me....like i said...too many questions,too little answers.....
a leopard can't change its spot but as a human being "attitude" can change……
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the said "attitude" has stick to him for almost 24yrs…….what do you expect?
this problem seems not only lies with him but with you too...
I am sorry to say this but correct me if I am wrong......
after looking at the whole scenario, I feel as if you are eager to end this marriage rather than to save it.....
you want him to change but at the same time you want it to end.......
if you really,really love your marriage then save it for heaven sake!!!....
sit back and think whrere the mistakes lies? Get to the bottom of it....
that is why ALLAH created him for you and it goes the other way as well....
you are meant for each other which end up with 2 innocent little angels and soon will be the victim of circumstances....
do you want this to happen? do you want them to suffer?
Men as we all know are EGOISTIC... they are at times difficult to understand coz their emotion and expression are hardly shown….
I encounter this thus I dare to say it…..
I’ve been married for 10yrs, there are times misunderstanding is bound to happen even on a minor issue.....this will last for few days or sometimes weeks…..
just imagine how do you feel to be far from home and have to face it all by yourself?
but I look at it in a positive side and accept all things that happens as a test form ALLAH….that is where I gain my strength and also because I still love my marriage…..
Be strong, don’t let your emotions overrule you… HAVE FAITH!.....
tiada masalah di dunia ini yang tak boleh selesai.....
Harus ingat bahawasanya ALLAH akan sentiasa menguji hambanya tidak kira dari segi apapun atau dalam bentuk apapun baik besar ataupun kecil…..
Setiap saat, setiap minit kita diuji hanya antara kita sedar dgn tidak....
Contohnya:
Jika skarang kau masih dapat berjumpa dengan insan yang kau sayangi, bersyukurlah…….tapi jika sebaliknya janganlah kau sesali……
kerana jika perspisahan yang kau inginkan, kemungkinan ALLAH makbulkan permintaanmu tetapi dimakbulkan dalam ertikata lain......
FIKIRKANLAH!.......................
P.S: I love my niece & nephew.....I beg you to have more patience and faith.....
kak lina...nana da tried to b patient...nana pn tk nk fiqa ngan elfi jad mangsa psl kesalahan kite bt at times nana tk fhm iwan langsung...at one point,dia baik ngan nana bt psl benda kecik je dia mengamuk ngan nana..im nt eager to end dis marriage bt im wondering if mayb,mayb eh klu nana btul2 da tkde ngan dia then he will change...i juz do nt wan him to take me 4 granted....i feel hurt ble dia ckp bkn2...and each time dia maki nana,dats when i feel dat i wan to leave him...if onle he doesn't use all those words wif me,nana bleh sabar..tap sape yg bleh thn klu kene maki over trivial matters?nana aru dpt surat makamah...they send me another letter 4 wks frm nw to set a date 4 counselling..mayb a third party will b gd for both of us...kak lina doakn yg terbaik utk kite k...hopefully we can find a way out to salvage this broken ties....
ReplyDeleteI really, really understand the way you feel....
ReplyDeletewalaupun senario yang aku dan kau hadapi berbeza tapi hakikatnya sama kita jadi mangsa....
walaupun kau diperlakukan mcm tu, pahala yang kau terima dari kesabaran kau tu amat besar...
i was also thinking maybe a 3rd party might help you guys solve the problem.... INSYA-ALLAH...
Nana... dlm kehidupan kita, tak semua yang kita inginkan akan kita perolehi... begitu juga didalam setiap perhubungan tak kiralah kekasih ke, kawan ke, suami isteri ke...
tetap di tinggalkan ruang oleh ALLAH untuk menguji sampai manakah tahap kesabaran serta keimanan hambanya...
aku yang dah lama kahwin pun kadang2 tak faham ngan hubby... apa lagi kau yang baru 3 tahun... hubby aku pun kadang2 angin... bagi kita perkara kecil tapi bagi diaorang... FUUHHH!!!! BESARRR.......
ANYWAY I WISH BOTH OF YOU THE VERY BEST....
YANG PENTING NAWAITU KITA....
KALAU KITA NAK YANG BAIK, BAIKLAH JADINYA....
BE POSITIF OK.... INSYA-ALLAH....
thx kak...will bear dat in mind...missing fiqa so d very much...
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